So you might be thinking “Week six? Surely you’re like five months in by now?”.
It’s true. But having a baby is keeping us pretty busy and though I’ve actually been writing for the whole time, finding the time and the energy to finalise my drafts and post them up has been somewhat challenging.
So bear with me. I’ve a substantial backlog that I’m going to post up in sequence in the coming weeks for better or worse. Hopefully I’ll start to catch up with where we are today. But please forgive the time difference, life has been hectic.
On with week six…
I’m pretty lucky – because I’m freelance I’ve been able to take more paternity time than most new dads. But I’m back to work this week and it was quite a shock. We’ve been trying to work out how the routine at home is going to work now. And it was hard on Lisa being on her own most of the day.
Is being tired actually better for work?
At work it’s a strange experience. The tiredness means I have this feeling of caring just slightly less, enough to probably be better at my job since I’m more relaxed about it. Less mental space to stress about the little things.
The witching hours
The books tell us that Orin is going through a developmental leap this week. He was certainly crying hard every evening on my shift. I’ve heard friends call those hours ‘the witching hours’. that feels about right. Lisa tells me he’s fairly mellow in the day, then gets wound up by the evening time. Apparently this is a week where he has learned how to become overtired, where he fights the urge to sleep. Nice.
Sustaining creative projects is tough – tiny progress every day
Most of my creative work are writing projects at the moment and surprisingly I’ve been able to keep at them even through the madness of this week.
I’ve printed out my first drafts and have been editing them on the tube to and from work. The ride takes about 15 or 20 mins and I manage to edit half a page in either direction, so in the end I get a page a day edited in pen.
Finding time or the brain power to do any creating in the witching hour is a challenge. So I mostly try to quickly type up my edits from earlier into a second draft. I’ve managed to do about one edit a day. It’s only a small amount, but what feels important is the momentum that gives. There’s something powerful about doing even a tiny amount every day.
Break on through
So, being tired, working all day, then coming home to mind Orin, who cries all evening till I go to bed at 11pm. It’s been hard. But the first week back at work was always going to be the hardest week yet.
Our routines up in the air for all three of us, and Lisa and I have a lot of extra things to do while being as tired as we were before. So it’s been a case of putting our heads down and breaking on through.